Breakups suck. Especially when you thought things were going great and you were on the same page as a couple. And, even if you had one foot out the door, it can still be jarring when the relationship ends.
Moreover, if you initiated the breakup, the pain can be just as real as if you’d been dumped.
Not only that, you have to adjust to a new normal. If the relationship was yearslong it can take some time to readjust and move on from your ex.
When in Doubt, Cry it Out
Take a weekend to indulge your emotions and let it all out.
Put on a tear-jerker, get a pint of your favorite ice cream and a box of tissues, and turn on the waterworks.
If you’re not an emotional wreck over your breakup, that’s okay too. But, tears are cleansing, and they can help start the purging process. You’re friends, however, may say your ex doesn’t deserve your tears.
They’re not for him/her. They’re for you. Crying can be a crucial step to moving on from your ex.
Get Moving to Move On
It can be tempting to stay in bed and wallow in sadness. But, once you’ve had that cleansing cry, it’s time to get up and at’em. Fresh air is good for you.
Hit the gym, go for a walk, take a new yoga class.
Exercise releases endorphins. The same hormones your body releases when you’re falling in love or in deep lust.
It also feels good to know you’re improving yourself. Exercise can help you regain the confidence you may have lost after your break up. Newly-found confidence can definitely help you move on from your ex.
Indulge in Self-Love
It can be hard to accept that it’s over. Or you may be thinking you’ll never find love again. So, it’s time to love on yourself.
Self-love, self-care, me-time. Whatever you want to call it, it’s a necessity and a right. If you’ve spent months or years caring for your ex, it’ll be good to turn that caring inward.
Do the things you love to do. Take in a movie. Get a mani-pedi and a facial. Get dressed up and take yourself out to dinner.
Whatever you choose to do, make sure it’s something that soothes your mind, body, and spirit. It’s your chance to show yourself how much you value you and move on from your ex.
Put Your Freakum Dress On
When it comes to breakups Beyonce gives good advice. Call up your girls and have a girls’ night out of dancing and fun.
The same goes for the guys. Gather your bros and hit the club, go to a strip club or head to the casino.
However, if the club isn’t your speed, call them over for wine and conversation. Or beers and sports. Do whatever you’d normally do with your group of friends.
And, if you have no friends to call, male or female, it’s time to get out and get a friend group. Join a book club, take a cooking class, or find a hobby you enjoy that has meetups. Hell, join a random meetup.
Interaction with others can help take your mind off your breakup and put your social skills to use. As a result, being around the people who love you may help you move on from your ex.
Live Your Best Life
Remember, you are diamond, and the right person will cherish you like one.
Nonetheless, you can’t live your best life when you’re still hung up on someone. They’ve moved on, so you should do the same, and do it in style.
Picture your best life. What does it look like? Where do you live? What kind do car do you drive? What career do you have?
Now, it’s time to work on those goals and move toward being the best you. When you’re at your best, it shows. You hold your head higher; walk a little taller. You radiate confidence.
As well as that, when you’re living your best life you don’t have time to long for the past. You’re too busy making moves and building your empire.
Let the World Know You’ve Moved On
Not so, much the world. But, let yourself know you’ve moved on. If you haven’t already done it, get rid of everything that belonged to your ex.
So, go through closets and drawers. Check under the bed and clean out your car. Gather up everything. Clothes, shoes, books, electronics, anything that came into our space with that person must go.
Finally, you’ve purged your soul, your personal space needs a purge too. Make space for the new great things about to come into your life.
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